Ok, first off, you don't hit women. Ever.


Anytime someone HITS a woman in public/in a group, they are assuming all sorts of risks.

Kinda like breaking into a house.


Anything that happens to that guy is fair game. What an asshole.

"it's just jackie" Fuck that.

I'm actually pissed off now.


Personally, I would have punched him in the throat.

I have hit a few bigger guys and lived to tell about it.

If a few people saw him do that, and saw you hit him, you would have been ok.

 

Ok, first off, you don't hit women. Ever.

Anytime someone HITS a woman in public/in a group, they are assuming all sorts of risks.

Kinda like breaking into a house.

Anything that happens to that guy is fair game. What an asshole.

I'm actually pissed off now.

Personally, I would have punched him in the throat.

That's exactly how I felt, but I was at a party with no real "good" guy friends that would've jumped in and helped me, and NOBODY said a word to the guy at the party. My best friend who is a TANK was on his way to the party as this happens. What luck.

I dunno, shitty situation, kinda wish I did something.

Also, I didn't wanna destroy my friend's house where the party was, and the house is RIGHT on campus, and I was drunk, under 21, and not looking forward to seeing any cops tonight.

 

Because your under 21 and were drinking there you probably made the better decision to not do anything. While yes it sucks to have to sit there and stand by sometimes you have to walk away.

 

Yea, the hardest part is just sitting there and swallowing it, now getting hit in the face over it.

Now that I think about it, what the fuck was everyone else doing that saw this? I was the only one that said anything, and Jackie has GOOD friends of hers there...just watching.

 

What a bummer.

I have been in a couple of situations like that, and felt guilty afterward that I did not do anything. That was about 4 years ago.


I have acted on what I felt since then.

It's been ok for the most part.

Guys that hit women are weak anyway.

 

What a bummer.

I have been in a couple of situations like that, and felt guilty afterward that I did not do anything. That was about 4 years ago.

I have acted on what I felt since then.

It's been ok for the most part.

Guys that hit women are weak anyway.

Yea, that's the kinda vibe I get from guys that hit women...most are cowards.

It's the first time that's happened to me, but I think I might handle it a little differently next time.

 

Good!


It's just such a shitty spot to be in.

 

I would have done what you did, but made a bigger deal out of it....not cool.

 

You should you were more of a true friend by at least saying something. But you also did the right thing by walking away. You could have taken her with you away from the situation and someplace safe. Even if you were older than 21 you will still be better off not hitting somebody. If all that happens is a smack, yes its not right but it doesn't justify you striking back. Stop the situation just like you did, talk it down, then get the girl someplace safe.

However I do believe that if you come across a girl that is getting pounded on it is completely valid to jump in and stop it with violence but only of equal amount. Can't escalate it you know. Then again knowing me I wouldn't jump in the fight but draw my sidearm and tell him to stop and get the hell away from her.

 

What kind of sidearm do you carry?

 

Take the beating.


BTW, Guns are not the answer.

Even if you get your ass kicked, the guy will remember what happened.



EDIT: I have been down this road a few times. I don't regret anything I have done.

 

Take the beating.

BTW, Guns are not the answer.

Even if you get your ass kicked, the guy will remember what happened.

remember what, that he smaked some girl then kicked a guys ass?

sorry i just dont see the point of getting your ass kicked in this situation.

 

Your right that they aren't the answer but discretion must be used. If I'm gonna be drinking my sidearm would be locked up tight back home in its safe.

However if I'm out and about and see a woman getting attacked in an alley way I would be faced with a very difficult decision either way in how to react.

 

No, it's not the beating that I am talking about. It's the fact that *someone* (not the victim) stood up to whoever, and made a point of not taking any shit!

For someone with that type of mindset, it will stick out.

 

No, it's not the beating that I am talking about. It's the fact that someone stood up to whoever, and made a point of not taking any shit!

For someone with that type of mindset, it will stick out.

that make sence, i see what you ment know.

but i wouldnt say griffen did the wrong thing either.

 

One of the few times it actually came to blows, I was yelling "not right" as I punched this guy in the face, as I was kneeling on his chest.

Not my finest moment.

But, I saw him slap his GF earlier, and was kinda aggro with this other woman who happened to be my friend. Needless to say, some people shoud not drink.

You may want to try and call the person in question tomrrow, and see what's up.

 

One of the few times it actually came to blows, I was yelling "not right" as I punched this guy in the face, as I was kneeling on his chest.

Not my finest moment.

But, I saw him slap his GF earlier, and was kinda aggro with this other woman who happened to be my friend. Needless to say, some people shoud not drink.

You may want to try and call the person in question tomrrow, and see what's up.

Haha, I can see you yell "Not Right!" and punch this guy like Billy Madison beat up on Bob Barker. "The price is wrong, Bitch!"

The kid, whos name is Frank I think, doesn't even go to my school. He dropped out last year, and just comes back to party.

So, I doubt I'll go to the effort of calling the kid, but I'll def. call Jackie.

 

My take? Mostly agree w/Palmer. Big spells big not bad. If the jerk's hitting a woman he deserves to get his nose broke, no questions. But, you're not necessarily obligated to do it if you don't want. Most guys, especially big ones, don't know what to do after their nose is spurting like a fountain.

I'm not a tough guy by any means (look at my pictures) but I have a big mouth and I've had a bunch of black eyes, a few broken noses, had the cops called on me outside a frat house, BUT, that was when I was going to school in a part of the country where you didn't have to worry about getting stabbed or shot if you wanted to see how strong you were. You'll never feel more alive than after you've been kicked/punched in the face a few times.

Even if you couldn't take him, there's value in making a point. I firmly believe that God does take care of the young and foolish oftentimes... That said, you probably did the right thing.

 

It was just a sucky situation...total buzzkill.

I don't wanna sound like a douche, but I would have taken a broken nose to stand up to the kid, but I cannot get arrested...for fighting, and underage drinking.

 

Are you an education major at West Chester? My older sis graduated from there w/a social work degree. A good friend of mine went there too and is a math teacher now. Good school for education for sure.

 

Actually, no...just grew up in West Chester.

I'm an ECON major at Indiana University of Pennsylvania (IUP)...it's a state school near Pitt.

IUP= I Usually Party lol

 

Been there once. I had an ex-girlfriend who was good at pole vault and I went out there to watch her compete once a long time ago...

Anyway, don't let it eat you up. You probably did the right thing, IUP isn't that big, and if the guy's as big a jerk as he sounds you'll have another chance to lay into him if you desire. It's much better to be smart than a chump.

 

Man I am probably smaller than you are... 5'6.5" and when I was in HS and early 20's I dealt with the same type crap. When I was 16 a guy that was (somoan-- sp?) and 6'0" probably 340# hit a friend on mine and I stepped up and in all my Napolean stature hit the guy with a motorcycle helmet in the side of the head watched him laugh and then kick my ass all over the place. But the moral is I stood up for the girl.....

I dont say you were totally wrong since the situation difused itself but I think my gut reaction would have had me throat punching the guy!!!!!There is always next time if it ever happens again and with a douche like that it will.

 

Man I am probably smaller than you are... 5'6.5" and when I was in HS and early 20's I dealt with the same type crap. When I was 16 a guy that was (somoan-- sp?) and 6'0" probably 340# hit a friend on mine and I stepped up and in all my Napolean stature hit the guy with a motorcycle helmet in the side of the head watched him laugh and then kick my ass all over the place. But the moral is I stood up for the girl.....

I dont say you were totally wrong since the situation difused itself but I think my gut reaction would have had me throat punching the guy!!!!!There is always next time if it ever happens again and with a douche like that it will.

Yea, that's what I'm taking from it...try to diffuse the situation like I did tonight, but if someone gets in my face about it like the guy did tonight, knock him out, or go down trying.

Who hits a girl?

 

Steve, what are you doing awake at 2:40 AM? Arent you too old for that?

 

lol....... yeah I am an old man for sure!!!! But the wife and I are taking turns playing Guitar Hero II .... On the medium level trying to get through Psychobilly Freakout and man do my hands hurt!! Not sure if its the game or the arthritis!!

 

you never hit a girl!!!!! PERIOD!!!! very shitty situation

 

No matter what..... whoever the girl is... whatever she did, a male should never hit another girl. Bigger people dont mean they know howto fight. I would of been all over that guy giving a beat down, but then again im 6'2 and ive been in my fair share of fights (mostly related to a situation like this). Even if you got your ass whooped everyone there would of been on your side backing you up. If they werent, you wouldnt of been at the party in the first place.

 

Shoot. Who's old now? I had to google Guitar Hero II to even know what it was... after I read the wiki I realized I tried it once in a Fry's, and I ROCKED! Well, no not really, that game is hard.

Great to learn you smacked a guy in the head with a motorcycle helmet, that's freakin' awesome! If more of that kind of thing happend these days more punks would stay inline.

 

Hey its not about how big a guy is but more about just standing up for whats right....


SOrry I made you google Guitar Hero Ol' timer .. hee heee

 

gosh you got me all fired up now, thats one of the very few things that takes me over the edge.

 

nah yu playd it well
dont wana blow it up ever!

 

ps: he looks like a cave man anyways..

if yur ever in that spot again and yu think yu cant take some one..
just play it the brent way..
be buddy buddy with the guy..
get him suuper faded
steel his wallet
and piss on his face..

 

good theory.. but try this..

same situation, only its your girlfriend thats getting hit. Welcome to my world twice.

 

Ok, first of all... There really isn't a need to read through the entire thread to see everyone's point of view. It's obvious as to everyone's opinion since we're all decent people here...

Secondly, my hat off to you sir for keeping your cool. I would not have been able to do the same thing.

I've been in your situation before. However, it was a slightly different scenario.

Not to get into too much detail but, I wasn't so nice to the frat boy who not only thought that he was "god's gift to the world" but also thought it was his right to smack a girl who refused to be forced (or the attempt of) back to his room.

I'll leave it at that. (There was a lot more to it...Tried the talking thing, didn't work. In the end it was moreorless self defense since this guy was definitely not in his right mind.)

I was raised to respect women in any way possible. That includes not allowing someone to disrespect them. Period.